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    Why I Chose to Be a Submissive in My BDSM Relationship

    When I first met Doug on Match.com in 2005, we were 26 and living in Washington, D.C., both recently out of serious relationships, both working long hours at jobs we loved. He had a big position with a top financial firm; I headed up public relations for a health-care nonprofit. On our first date, although we only kissed, he told me I wouldn’t be the same when he was done with me. I knew he was right—I just didn’t know what it meant. Neither of us did. Doug was tall with dark hair and eyes, but it wasn’t his looks that unglued me. A recent business school graduate, he was…

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    Can a Yoni Egg Get Stuck?

    Women who are about to use a Yoni egg for the first time often have 2 main questions. One is, “Will the egg get lost inside my body?” The other one is, “Can my Yoni Egg get stuck?” In regards to the first question, NO the yoni egg can’t get lost inside your body. When it comes to the second query- well- at times the egg may get stuck inside the vaginal canal. But that’s nothing scary and there are some extremely easy ways to get it out. It is said that a Yoni Egg itself decides for how long it would stay inside your body. In most of the…

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    Is Japan’s Naughty Knotty BDSM Scene Too Dangerous?

    TOKYO—There’s a saying in Japan, Nama byoho wa kega no moto. That is, Half-baked knowledge of the martial arts is the cause of great injury. It turns out the same is true in the realm of Japan’s fetish subculture. Half-baked knowledge of BDSM is also the cause of great injury—especially with ropes. Japan’s fetish scene has blossomed in recent years and become part of the popular culture. A member of Japanese Prime Minister Shinzo Abe’s cabinet appears to have frequented S&M bars, and even the HBO series Girls had an episode set in a Tokyo bondage club. However, as the fetish scene has grown, so have the number of injuries,…

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    BDSM in China

    “I love being dominant, and the feeling of power I have in our sexual role-playing games,” says 28-year-old Ada Ling, a certified nurse who lives and works in Beijing. “[And] I love being trampled by her, especially when she’s wearing high heels,” her 26-year-old boyfriend, university tutor and graduate student Xiao Wu explains. Xiao and Ling met roughly two years ago on a BDSM message board. While in the popular imagination, BDSM most often evokes images of skintight leather suits and whips, practitioners of BDSM usually define it in relational terms – as forms of erotic play based on control and uneven power dynamics. In the wake of the release…

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    How Japanese Rope Bondage Culture Developed Outside of Western BDSM

    Santa left a Taiwanese rope bondage book by 小林绳雾 under the Christmas tree for Master. Amongst the step-by-step illustrations, the author spends some time to understand the subtle difference between Western BDSM culture and Asia’s SM Culture. The book is in Chinese, but it’s a very interesting look at that topic, so I thought it would be nice to write a short article and translate some of the thoughts into English. Bondage, torment and eroticism are part of the natural calling of many people involved in BDSM, however, the actual methods used for this are subtly derived and evolved from the individual’s social background. Although we often see the world…